My thoughts are on the recent passing of my sister-in-law. She departed this life on
September 3, 2014. Her name is Audrey. My husband and I made plans to visit Audrey and other relatives.
We were to leave our hometown on Thursday August 28, 2014. We were expecting to arrive back home on Thursday, September 4, 2014.
My husband received a call from the hospital. He spoke with a surgeon on Monday, August 25, 2014.
He was told that his sister Audrey needed immediate surgery or she would die.
He was told that she had two blood clots on each side of her head.
My husband needed time to digest this sudden information. He consulted other family members.
It was finally in agreement by family members that she would have the surgery.
Audrey was born with down syndrome. She was 59 years old. She had developed dementia
within the the last year or so.
The last time she came to visit us, we could see signs of dementia and that she was slowing down.
We saw her last August 2013, and for the last time when she visited us in mid September 2013.
We visited Audrey everyday while she was in the hospital. She departed on Wednesday September 3, 2014.
We were scheduled to leave on Thursday September 4, 2014.
On September 4, 2014 we made Audrey’s funeral arrangements.
We arrived about a week or so later for Audrey’s wake/viewing on Sunday, September 14, 2014.
Her funeral and burial was on Monday, September 15, 2014.
I had no idea of the emotions I had with held,no idea of my grief and pain.
It finally all came out when my husband and I were asked to come forward.
We were asked to cover Audrey. When her casket was descending my emotions got the best of me.
I felt a sudden shaking in my knees, I felt myself becoming weak and shaken.
It was at that very moment when I saw Audrey being lowered in the casket that I knew it was good-bye.
I knew then that Audrey was finally gone. She had gone home.
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Accepting death is very hard for everyone. But you must understand everyone is ever so precious and no one knows how long each has to live or by what means they will die. My heart goes out to you and your family and I can say time will lessen the pain but there will always be triggers to remind you of that last day. May god bless you and say it every day She is not feeling any more hurt or pain. thank you for sharing.
Your sister was very fortunate to be part of a loving family. Your touching words show how raw your grief is. May good memories lightening the sad days ahead.
I am so sorry to hear of your family’s loss. I have seen first hand how dementia can be a terrible hurtful struggle and for that reason I hope you can find peace in that she won’t have to suffer through that anymore. Doesn’t make it any less painful for you to lose someone, especially since she was so young. She was very lucky to have been surrounded by such care and compassion. My thoughts are with you.
Sorry to hear about your terrible loss. My parents, three brothers and a
sister have passed and as the years go by, you will remember the pleasant
memories only. They will be the memories you cherish most.
Oh my, what a story to tell – it must have been so difficult since it is so new. Audrey sounds like a well – loved person. What a lovely tribute to be remembered like this.
So sorry for your loss. I felt your pain and frustration, my heart goes out to you and yours. Great writing, even in the turmoil of pain.