Exercise 1: List of Memoir Conflicts.
“Being the last born child in a family
Desire to be successful
Do not follow my father – alcohol
Survive two serious motor car accidents and their ramifications
Understanding responsibility:Marriage vs Career and the need to blend them
Sport and how to balance with family life
Support dependencies leading to a successful life ”
Exercise 2. Theme of my memoir.
How to survive all the curved balls that are thrown at you and have a meaningful life?
Optional Exercise. Sport and how to balance with family life?
“When I was young (in junior school) I realised that my life was destined to contain a sport component. The sport which I enjoyed the most was cricket and I soon racked up a number of successes including captaining a provincial schools XI. My greatest achievement was being selected to play for the Schools First XI whilst in Grade 9. I had a strong desire to participate in as many sports as I was capable. My school did not play soccer and as such I played for a local club at an above average level. This caused conflict with the school so I played tennis at school. My soccer ability was built upon my relationship with my cousin who played for our countries national team and a successful professional team. Sport in school(s) was terrific but at the end of my school tenure I was forced to complete my 10 month military conscription. In this period of time I was involved in a motor car accident where I was seriously injured but not life threatening.
I returned to my life with the intention of completing a degree having obtained a bursary. However I was not prepared for the devastation I was to encounter when I was involved in another motor car accident. I was seriously injured breaking all the bones in my left arm and my right femur resulting in me being unconscious for a period of a week. I developed a fatty embolism and had to fight for my life. I survived and after spending 56 days in hospital I went home to recover but it took 12 months . Unfortunately due to the nature of the injuries to my left arm cricket was no longer an option and recognising my desire to participate in sport I channeled my energies into soccer where I was successful playing until I was 29. In this period I got married and had two children.
My studies were not successful and my goals were pushed backwards. I realised I had to take stock and after a career assessment I embarked on a career in Information Technology. I studied and obtained a Diploma in Computer Science, followed by a B Comm in business management and a mini MBA. My family were the catalyst to my success ensuring I always had sufficient – my wife is a star.
“However this is were I pushed my luck and ended up in a major conflict with my family. I retired from soccer but shortly thereafter started long distance running. This sport requires an inordinate amount of time to prepare and to a greater degree I lost sight of my family duties. I had a successful 15 year running stint but I realised the conflict it caused. I now play golf with my wife and enjoy it. In reaching this point in time I have been as low as a single figure golf handicap and my passion for sport
has been achieved after a number of conflicts were circumvented always with the help of my wife.”